THE BLOG
6 Learnings for Couples from Lockdown
Pretty much everyone we know has had the rare experience of spending more unbroken time in Lockdown with their partner than they have in their entire relationship. What did this experience give us as takeaways that can help us grow our relationships going forward?
Read MoreThe Twin Hooks that have us Running Back to An Ex – And Rather How to Back Yourself.
Hook No 1: Say What?? Your Ex is Already Dating Again?? The most common and powerful hook is the moment when you’ve been licking your wounds and making fairly good progress in finding closure over your relationship’s still-warm-bed when you’re blindsided by the discovery that your ex has wasted no time and is back on…
Read MoreWhy did the Relationship End? – 12 Steps for Closure and Dignity
In the first quarter of this year, I facilitated the ending of four marriages. These cases stand out for me for two reasons – one for the high statistic (in my practice) and two because these weren’t relationships that were filled with resentment and anger. These were couples who came to the bittersweet conclusion that…
Read More5 Ways to delight your partner
Couples who have fun together, who dance and play games, who laugh at themselves and each other, and who take delight in each other’s company are those who also want to stay together. This new year, embrace delight in each other – and yourself! 1. Be playful with each other When last did you tickle…
Read More4 Ways to Lose a Woman’s Tenderness
With comments like “you’ve become so hard” and “I don’t recognize you anymore,” the couples I see for counseling invariably seek the formula to bring back this elusive ingredient but few realize they were partly responsible for its demise.
Read MoreThe Martial Art of Relationships
The Tenets of the martial art,Tae Kwon-Do are very closely aligned to the relationship Allies proposed in the book “Wanted: How to Create a Relationship that Really Works”.
Read MoreGet Your Relationship Back on Track – 4 Tips for the New Year
Many couples seek counselling as a last resort when their relationship is in serious trouble. The prospect of a new year often heralds a sober review as to where you are in your life and how you’re doing emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically.
Read MoreCan a Relationship Survive Infidelity?
It’s one of the most common reasons couples seek counselling: betrayal. In spite of our intuition nudging us when our partner is behaving strangely and might be straying, the shock of discovering them cheating is usually as traumatic as it is brutal and can be near impossible to recover from.
Read More9 Grounding Questions for Your Relationship Audit
You won’t be surprised to hear of the pressures placed on your relationships by today’s faster pace. Add to that the myriad expectations for you to be a partner, provider, lover, nurturer, parent, friend and so on and it can become tough to remain a centred adult. Sometimes it seems the better option is to…
Read More8 Steps to Improve Your Relationship Listening Skills
Probably the greatest enduring gift you can give your partner is communication – listening by hearing and understanding their views, feelings, expectations and challenges. Lack of or poor communication is also a top cause for divorce. The problem is, most of us are pretty lousy at communicating. Especially in a reciprocal manner, which includes listening…
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